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You Are Not Broken, Woman! You Are a Phoenix!

''You've seen my descent,  Now watch my rising.'' (Rumi)
From time to time there comes a moment when we have to make a choice either to live the same old stories over and over again or just step forward and do the scariest, but the most freeing thing in the world: ERASE everything and RE-WRITE the whole story.
It is the time when you see how small you let yourself be, you hear yourself  whispering instead of roaring out loud and you decide that's enough. It is time to change that! 
Time to let go of all that and be done with this chapter.
Time to understand that no matter all the painful things that happened to you, no matter how broken you felt, you were never a broken woman.It was all in your head.
So, be done with that chapter. Be done with that book! Close it, seal it and start a new-life changing story. Honour your past, but be ready to burn it all in the flames of your rebirth.
Because, my darling, you are not the things that happened to you. You are not your mi…

If I Tell You There's a Way to Have It All, Are You Willing to Pay the Price?

There is an old saying that ,,nothing is  free''. I got to think about this for a while and ancient symbols came to my mind : Yin and Yang, the  Uroboros, the Phoenix.
There is no light without darkness, no sun without the night, no ups without downs. It is all going into cycles that begin to anew as soon as they end.

We can not know the ecstasy if we don't come to acknowlegde agony first - and the deeper the agony, the deeper the ecstasy will be.


Everything has to be paid for. For ecstasy, we have to pay in agony.
You have to go through deep pain to get rid of pain. It is a cleansing process. Pain is a fire: it burns the garbage you have  in you and allows the beauty to reveal itself. Just as we purify gold through fire, consciousness is purified through pain. Pain has something to deliver to you. All you have to do is to stay alert. Don't avoid pain! If you avoid pain, you are avoiding pleasure. Don't avoid darkness. If you avoid darkness, dawn will never come. …

Love, Commitment and other Demons

There comes a time when, no matter how hard you try not to see the obvious, the truth hits you and you just don’t get to run anymore. Sometimes in the shape of a fortunate (or unfortunate) event, sometimes in the shape of a person, the universe will always reach you, no matter how hard you try to keep your eyes tightly closed. There might be a sign on your usual , every day road to work. A sign you’ve always watched, but never saw. There might be a phone call from the one you love, that will give you chills. There might be a ,,mirror’’, and seeing it all  in another person makes you realise and understand the things you’ve been trying to avoid. These days, I’ve reached the point where I had no escape. I had to face the old, yet unknown to me wounds  and new perspectives on the things I thought I had figured out already. And there was no way out,  no place to hide, nothing to cover my eyes with. Like a wild, cornered animal I was tempted to fight, to defend myself and I realised that -not o…

How do you think it should be and how it really is

My son is a big National Geographic's fan. Spending time with him yesterday , we watched a little movie about some nasty monkeys. Funny creatures by the way. Now, I don’t believe that we just evolved from the good old monkey. They might be cute and imitate us, it’s their nature. But if they do imitate us, that doesn’t make them our predecessors. But this is another story. What I am going to talk about now is something that made me think about us , humans and how our behaviour  resembles to their’s sometimes. I am going to tell you about monkey traps .
Monkeys are captured in India through a bottle with a banana placed inside, big enough to fit their hand in and out of. The hole is large enough for the monkey’s hand, but not large enough for its hand and the banana together.So, consumed by the wish of having it, the monkey doesn’t let go of the banana even though it’s terrified and about to get captured. The monkey gives up its life for the sake of hanging on to this stupid banana …

Stories of a Recovering Heart

I have always flirted with the idea of unconditionaly giving pieces of my heart. Although, sometimes it didn't seem to be such a great idea (especially for my friends, who had to pick up my broken pieces after this).  But the idea of offering simple but deep, declared and conscious emotions was such a hype.  And I am not talking now about sex, but about a deep, profound diving into my soul, wich was so strong and natural, that not every person I have met could take it.
So, little by little, I closed my heart, without even realising it.
 Little by little, I stopped being the caring and loving woman, the childish woman who laughed carefree and I began borrowing pieces from the closed souls of the ones that touched my heart.
 Being a masculine woman (i know, it's a very weird term),  no one could hurt me anymore, no one could see through me anymore. No one could touch me.   And I always had a role ready to play:perfect girlfriend, perfect seductive, perfect friend, perfect listene…

What Can You Do When There Is Nothing You Can Change

I don’t really believe in destiny. We are the creators of our lives every single day and most of the pains and sufferings are just results of our attitude.
Life is full of uncontrollable events.Yet, in most of the situations the only thing we really can control is the attitude we choose to respond with.

When you really take the time to think about it, everything happening around us is neutral,  until the point that we give it meaning.
No matter what you’re going through, it’s all about choosing the right questions and the right answers to them:
Will I allow this to upset me? Will I choose to make this a bad or a good lesson? Will I choose to stay or walk away? Will I choose to yell or whisper? Will I choose to react or take the time to respond?

Sometimes changing the present situation isn’t possible. You can’t get to a new job in an instant. You can’t make someone change against his or her will. And you definetely can’t change the past. But…

You can always choose your  attitude towards thi…

Do you have the right master?

Learn.Learn all your life.
Learn from books, from encounters, from every being and everything that comes across your path.
But most of all, learn from kind people.
Feeling inadequate and uncomfortable won't teach you the lesson.
But will teach you the sorrow and pain of not being accepted for who you are.
It will only teach you that you are not enough.
Pay attention when choosing your masters.Not all wise men are teachers, as well as not all teachers are wise mentors.

How to recognize love

One day, you'll meet someone who won't need anything from you.Someone who won't crave for your time, your attention or your validation. Nothing.
Nothing but for you to be happy.
And that's when you'll know you are truly loved.
That's when you'll feel the real, unconditional love.
Don't settle for less.You deserve to meet that someone.